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“The question should be, is it worth trying to do, not can it be done.” (Allard Lowenstein)

When faced with a challenge, too many of us give up before we start. We second-guess ourselves and find reasons why we’ll most likely fail, reasons why this is a bad idea, reasons why we should just sit tight and let someone else do it. We fail because we ask ourselves the wrong questions.

We get emails and Facebook messages all the time from people who are skeptical that they can change their family or their marriage or their workplace. Things have gotten so bad after such a long period of time. They don’t think it will work. But asking yourself, “Will this work?” isn’t the right question.

Is it worth trying? Is the possibility of having the kind of relationship you’ve always dreamed of worth giving it a shot? That’s the right question.

If you think it’s worth trying, don’t even worry about the possibility of “failure”. When you start to see things through this ScreamFree lens, failure becomes obsolete. There is no real failure; there are only opportunities for growth. And growth is always worth it.