Confront More, Complain Less
Most of all, complaining makes us feel like we’re doing something about our injustice, thereby excusing us from the dastardly job of actually addressing it.
As you adopt Authentic Self-Representation, however, you will find that complaining becomes less satisfactory. It begins to feel far better to confront yourself, checking that your feelings are justified, and then confront the person you were complaining about. You don’t do this with rage; you don’t do this with needy sadness. You do it with calm confidence, boldly asking for what you want, knowing you’ll be okay if it doesn’t happen.
At least you gave the other person a chance to make it right, and more importantly, you gave yourself a true voice.