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“If we don’t start trusting our children, how will they ever learn to become trustworthy?” (John Lithgow as Rev. Moore in Footloose)

Trust is a tricky issue. We tend to think that a person has to earn our trust before we can give it to them. But trust can never be fully earned, and, if something is earned, it’s not really a gift. The truth of the matter is that even the most trusted person you know has the power to disappoint you. And, at some point in time, probably will.

Embracing this and letting go of those things you cannot control helps you do one of the most important things you can do as a parent: you must trust your children. Don’t do this foolishly or carelessly. Trust them wisely and well.

By freely extending trust to your child — before she has earned it — you send a message. You are letting her know that you believe she is worthy and capable. It is precisely that kind of message that can empower her to rise to the occasion and not only meet but, perhaps, exceed your expectations.