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November 4, 2009

Willing vs. Wanting

Image: Flickr/Kourtlyn Lott

Image: Flickr/Kourtlyn Lott

There is a book that I love called The Energy of Money by Maria Nemeth, Ph.D. It is a fantastic read and it encompasses way more than money management. There is one section that I’m re-reading because I desperately need to do so.

It is called “Willing vs. Wanting”. In it, Nemeth says, “You can be willing to do something you don’t want to do. You can have all sorts of opinions and distracting thoughts and still be willing to take action when it’s necessary.” She claims that successful people are the ones who are willing to do the things that they sometimes don’t want to do.

Well that’s no fun. But it is helpful and most of us do it on a daily basis with our parenting. Most of us are willing to set consequences and enforce them even though we don’t like doing so. And most of us are willing to stay up late into the night with a sick little one even though we’d rather be counting sheep. Frankly, we wouldn’t even think twice about it.

So, here’s the million dollar question. How is it that we can recognize the value of willing vs. wanting with our children, but we neglect it when it comes to ourselves? If I don’t want to exercise, you’d better believe that I’ll find plenty of reasons why I “can’t”. Don’t have the right work out clothes. Don’t want to take two showers today. Didn’t make a new playlist on the old ipod. Just ate two pounds of chocolate from the halloween stash and I wouldn’t want to kill a good sugar buzz.

How much happier and more fulfilled would we be if we treated ourselves to this bit of wisdom? I don’t know, but I’m willing to give it a try.

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