Congratulations! They Don’t Need You
“When mothers talk about the depression of the empty nest, they’re not mourning the passing of all those wet towels on the floor, or the music that numbs your teeth, or even the bottle of capless shampoo dribbling down the shower drain. They’re upset because they’ve gone from supervisor of a child’s life to a spectator. It’s like being the Vice President of the United States.” (Erma Bombeck)
When kids enter the world, they need their parents for everything. That is what makes it so difficult for us to change our position in the family from one who provides to one who guides. If we’re honest, it can be a little sad when you realize that you’re no longer needed.
But, if you think about it, that’s the goal of parenting, isn’t it?
When you realize that your kids can and do function well without you, celebrate the occasion for a job well done. Instead of holding on and digging in while your children move toward independence, why not walk beside them and celebrate the journey? That way, when they leave the nest, you won’t be left feeling quite so empty.