“The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things
in the face and know them for what they are.”
(Marcus Aurelius)

People ask me this all the time: “Okay, Hal, I get that I need to pause and stay calm; how do I do that?”

Here’s how: You make it your number one priority. The only way we humans can consistently pause in the heat of the moment is if we adopt the mindset that staying calm is the only thing that matters.

If you’re staying calm in order to gain better control of your children, it won’t work.
If you’re pausing in order to get your spouse to agree with you, it won’t work.

If you’re pausing for any other reason than to gain control of yourself, you will consistently fail.

Peace begins with pause,