“Money, it turned out, was exactly like sex, you thought of nothing else if you didn’t have it, and thought of other things if you did.”
(James Baldwin)

After meeting their basic needs in a decent way, people don’t really want more money…they want the feelings they think they’ll have once they get that money.
(success, validation, victory, peace of mind, security)

In a similar way, people don’t really want their ultimate sex fantasy to come true…they want the feelings they think they’ll have once they experienced it.
(validation, freedom, adoration, pleasure to eclipse their pain)

What we want most, it turns out, is to feel better than we feel right now. And we’ll risk almost everything to chase after those better feelings.

Peace begins with pause,