“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.”
(Albert Schweitzer)

Leading by example is something everyone says they believe in. But few of us really understand how to do it.

For instance, is it leading by example when we highlight to our kids, “Watch how I treat this authority figure with respect…that’s how you need to treat me.”?

No.

Is it leading by example when we showcase our work ethic, hoping our co-workers and employees then start to work harder?

No.

The paradox of leading by example is that as soon as we think we’re doing it, we’re not. Unless the example we want people to practice is the art of boasting about their own example.

The only way leading by example works is if we’re not consciously trying to get others to follow us.

Peace begins with pause,