“What is important is to keep learning, to enjoy challenge, and to tolerate ambiguity. In the end there are no certain answers.” (Martina Horner)

If you’re searching for the right thing to do at the time time, every time, I have some sobering news for you: You never “arrive”. You’ll never get to the place where you know how to do everything perfectly. Not with your kids. Not with your significant other. Not with your job. And, trust me, not on the golf course.

Everything evolves. Just when you think you’ve got things in hand, the landscape shifts, and you find yourself struggling to find the path again. This is not only how life is, I believe it’s how life is supposed to be. Life is supposed to be difficult so we can learn.

I know people get frustrated with our organization because we don’t often tell people exactly what to do. I know what it’s like to want a step-by-step, how-to guide for all the difficult situations I find myself in on a daily basis. But there isn’t one. Pat answers only go so far before they become pat-ronizing.

What matters most in life is the process, the growth, not the outcome. If you can remember that every hardship you encounter is an opportunity for growth, it might just change the way you look at things. And you might just find yourself more capable of handling whatever comes your way.