“The secret of being a bore is to tell everything.”
(Voltaire)

Watching our kids struggle with friendships is one of the hardest parts of parenting. That’s why I specifically address the topic in each of the editions of our new Choose Your Own Adulthood Online Platform. I cannot urge you strongly enough to check it out. You can sign up for a monthly or annual subscription, buy it as a gift for a teen or young adult you care about, or even just start out with free access to the first two levels.

The rest of today’s Pause is below. But if you want to know more about the platform, watch this video first:

Be More Interested, Be Less Interesting

As any of us face new social situations, it can be tempting to think up and share things about ourselves others may find interesting. While this may work a little, it can easily backfire into looking a little self-absorbed. A far more effective strategy is this: Be more interested, and be less interesting. Take a genuine interest in others, asking them questions about themselves, their lives, their interests, and what makes them happiest.

You can go to a party, and make friends with a number of people, without really trying that hard. All you have to do is get curious:

“Where are you from?”
“What do you miss most about your hometown?”
“Do you have any family close by?”
“Who in your family are you closest to?”

And on and on. This is a skill that may not come naturally, but it can be learned, and we all get to practice it every day. Try it on someone this week. Then teach it to your kids.

Peace begins with pause,