“Accept that you are imperfect and always will be. Your quest is not to perfect yourself, but to better your imperfect self.”
(Eric Greitens)

This whole week I’m in Korea, working with the great families, and helping professionals, stationed at US Camp Humphries near Seoul. So, this week’s Daily Pauses are re-posts of some of our most popular over the last couple of years. Let us know what you think the second time around!

In his brilliant book Resilience, former Navy SEAL (and now Governor or Missouri) Eric Greitens delivers some amazing wisdom to a fellow SEAL struggling with the after-effects of warfare. I just finished the book, and I can’t wait to share some of its lessons in future Daily Pauses. For now, take this piece of practical wisdom into your holiday weekend.

Greitens asks his buddy to write down the words FEELINGS, ACTIONS, and IDENTITY, in that order. This is the way the world now operates, Greitens argues. We ask each other how we’re feeling, and we constantly ask ourselves the same thing. Then we let those feelings determine our next actions, and eventually those actions determine our destiny.

Truly wise and successful people, however, reverse the order: IDENTITY determines their ACTIONS, which in turn shape our FEELINGS. That’s right, we can actually change the way we feel, rather than the other way around.

As an exercise, for instance, try this: Identify yourself as a happy person. Say it aloud: “I am a happy person.” Now, force yourself to smile for a full 15 seconds. Think about one person or circumstance you’re thankful for.
I know this sounds silly, but I dare you to just try it.

Now, how do you feel?

Peace begins with pause,