Over-functioning is Under-productive

Whenever we use threats to control anyone’s behavior, we ruin any chance of getting what we actually want most. See, we don’t want our employees to improve because we threatened to fire them, we don’t want…

Choose to Let Them Choose

More than anything, our ability to choose is what makes us human. It is also the primary determinant of our…

Mind Your Manners

People ask me all the time about teaching your kids to have good manners.

Here’s the best way I know how: Identify all the manners you want…

What a tangled web we weave…

Whenever we deceive others, in order to make things better for ourselves in the moment, we deceive ourselves most of all. The real lie is thinking that by…

Plant, then harvest.

There is a time to reap rewards. These come in the form of business accomplishments, athletic victories and academic victories, and even…

Doing the Undone

All of us are surrounded by unfinished projects…at work, in our homes, in our relationships. These undone actions can be haunting, constant reminders of…

Liking Your Opponent

All week we’ve been talking about disagreement, and learning to do it well. One of the best ways to do this quickly is to simply acknowledge…

Suspenders

You are on the hardest journey of life, this climb towards the best you possible. This is the journey of maturity, where you…

The Necessary People in Our Lives

Think about someone who agrees with you. Always. From politics to parenting, from movies to music, this person could…

Passionate Disagreement

This whole week we’ve looked at learning to disagree well. Here’s one last thought: One of the misunderstandings about conflict is…