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ScreamFree Conflict?
In conflict resolution training, we’re taught the presenting issue between the parties is not the actual issue. What is really driving the conflict is…
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Two Tickets to Paradise
It’s certainly an interesting dilemma: would I choose paradise without my wife, or a normal life of struggle…
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Tell Me, Don’t Show Me
Funny thing about revenge – in an effort to heal our hurt we decide to hurt right back. Whenever we choose to…
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No More Mr. Nice Guy
Those who know me personally know I’m not really big on “nice.” I don’t really trust people who are always “nice,” and one of my favorite…
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Appreciating Appreciation
The easiest way I know to bring great harmony into your marriage is to just say thank you. Go out of…
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The Best Way to Suffer Well
The best way to suffer well is to practice something I like to call “servival.” Obviously, I like to make up words (“screamfree,” anyone?), and this one …
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Don’t Advertise Your Suffering
There are two things people do that almost universally put people off, and I’m afraid I am guilty of both: Bragging too much about…
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The Easiest Way to Earn Respect
I hear parents complain about their “disrespectful” kids all the time. Here’s my question in reply: When you lose your cool with them and say and do things you regret, how quickly do you apologize? Some folks actually tell me they don’t apologize, ‘cos that would communicate “weakness.” Others tell me they’ll […]
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TBT: Be Bamboozled
The first step of lasting growth is to change your thinking about growth itself. Making small changes and being gentle with yourself along the way…