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The Real Message of Advent
At its most universal, the Christmas story is about the advent of Peace itself, coming down to earth. According to the story, Peace took the initiative, taking the…
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Over-functioning is Under-productive
Whenever we use threats to control anyone’s behavior, we ruin any chance of getting what we actually want most. See, we don’t want our employees to improve because we threatened to fire them, we don’t want…
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Focus on the possible
The first line I ever wrote for my first book was this: “The greatest thing we can do for our kids is learn to focus on ourselves.”
I knew this would sound a bit jarring to most, and even…
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The Time I Totally Lost It
In the ten years since our first ScreamFree Parenting book came out, the world has changed dramatically, especially…
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Knowing isn’t Growing
An easy way to identify a source of anxiety is to look at truths we know…but don’t…
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Complaining doesn’t lead to change
For the most part, spouses would rather complain to others about their current marital pattern than calmly, authentically ask…
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Obedience is Overrated
There is a natural tendency for kids to “cut their teeth” on us by trying out harsh emotions and pushing against us on seemingly small matters. This shouldn’t surprise us; in fact, we should…
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Bitter & sweet
The same week we first published ScreamFree Parenting, my wife Jenny got diagnosed with cancer.
The same month our work with Army families began to expand…
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The Best Human Skill
We humans are driven by our emotions far more than our thoughts. Learning to differentiate between…
