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November 15, 2017

Death by Comparison

“If we had no faults, we should not take pleasure in noting those of others.”
(Francois VI, duc de La Rochefoucauld)


If you’re looking for a quick pull-me-down, compare your kids to your friends’ perfect offspring. If you think your kids are inferior, then there you go.


However, this depression-maker works even if you find your own kids to be superior in their accomplishments, looks, social skills, etc. See, once we start comparing as a way to judge how we’re supposed to feel about ourselves (or by extension, our kids), feeling superior in one match-up leads us to seek out more:


“Wow, my Ethan is definitely turning out to be better looking than Aiden down the street…I bet he ends up even more handsome than Dylan.”


That’s the only possible ending point in a comparison journey—a false sense of superiority until your soul is crushed by an inevitable victor.


Peace begins with pause,



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