He’s not your baby
“If a million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing.”
(Jaques Anatole Thibault)
“He’ll always be my baby.” If I’ve heard that once, I’ve heard it a thousand times. And most people tend to agree with it, the idea that your youngest child will always be the baby of the family, or the baby in your eyes.
But just because most people agree with it doesn’t make it right.
Is your goal to infantilize your kid so he won’t ever grow up and out on his own? Good God, I hope not.
I say “he” because this sentiment is far more commonly said about boys than girls. We expect our girls to grow mature and responsible, but we tend to, if we’re not careful, give our boys a pass. We then justify it with the baby language.
This is not good, people. Parenting is not about keeping our kids small, young, and safe. It’s about raising amazing adults, capable of choosing their own path and supporting their own dreams, all the while taking full responsibility for themselves.
In many ways this is the central theme in all my work, and that’s why I’m so gosh-darned excited about our newest course on the Pause Platform, Choose Your Own Adulthood. There’s a high-schooler edition, as well as a college edition.
Look for that announcement in your email inbox later this morning with a special offer just for our Daily Pausers.
Peace begins with pause,