Seeing Your Children as Adults
“You see much more of your children once they leave home.”
This quote by the legendary comedienne Lucille Ball is true on a couple of different levels. On one hand, she seems to be talking about the phenomenon of children leaving home only to return asking for help. For this very reason, don’t tell your kids that they can be anything when they grow up. “Unemployed and dwelling in my parents’ basement” isn’t a box they can check on the SAT career option list and it’s better for them to hear it now rather than later.
On another note, the comedienne is touching on a deeper truth worth exploring. Your relationship with your children will grow by leaps and bounds when you can start to truly see them as individuals. This is sometimes easier to do when you give them a chance to experience the world away from you, and that shouldn’t begin when they go off to college.
Peace begins with pause,