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  • This is parenting.

    This week I go to my son’s college orientation, in preparation for launching him from the nest in a month or so. It is a bittersweet time, but…

  • The 2nd Best Phrase You Can Say

    “That does help explain your actions, but it does nothing to excuse them.”   Today’s phrase may not be something you’ve ever heard, much less something you’ve ever said. But in my experience, it’s the best way to make sense of people’s past actions and help everyone find a better future.   Remember the Tiger […]

  • The 4th Best Phrase You Can Say

    “Tell me more.” (people who pause, seeking to understand before getting people to understand them)   A few months ago we looked at the 4th Worst Phrase You Can Say. Today is the 4th Best: Tell me more.   When you need to pause after hearing bad news, try “tell me more.” It’s a great […]

  • Questions to live by

    In our family, this quote couldn’t be more true. Jenny and I were practically babies ourselves when we got married, and I shudder to think how…

  • What’s the worst that can happen?

    The simplest tool I know for combating a known fear is to ask the question, What’s the worst that can happen?
    You’re facing a financial deficit, for instance, and you’re afraid …

  • Act your age

    Ouch. I know this is true for me. Just because my age is greater than my kids’, my behavior often isn’t. I am just more subtly immature than…

  • The hardest thing about being a father…

    Father’s Day, celebrated yesterday here in the States, can provoke some powerful reflection.

  • Response+ability

    My greatest hope for your kids is for each of them become a “responsible” adult. I know, I know, every parent says that. But not every parent means it the way I do. Most parents, when they say the word…

  • Hi, I’m Frank

    How many times have you blown up at your spouse, or child, or coworker, because you finally said what you should have stated weeks or months ago?

  • The 30-Year-Old Baby

    Perhaps you saw this story last month, about a couple suing their 30-year-old to make him move out of the house.