Act your age
Ouch. I know this is true for me. Just because my age is greater than my kids’, my behavior often isn’t. I am just more subtly immature than…
Confirming Our Bias
Yesterday I ranted a bit about the Internet and its effects on us all. Turns out I’m not the only one. There are a number of Silicon Valley pioneers regretting…
What Do You Want, A Medal?
This famous quote has been used countless times — mostly by parents laboring through the aggravation of their teen’s adolescence. The fact that it’s attributed to…
The Worst Phrase You Can Say
The worst phrase we can say, if we want to enjoy great relationships, is any form of:
I told you so. I knew this would happen. I could’ve told…
What’s Missing in Your Relationship?
It’s very common, in our modern search for lasting romance, to seek out a relationship that’s got the whole package. We want to feel, with total…
Complaining doesn’t lead to change
For the most part, spouses would rather complain to others about their current marital pattern than calmly, authentically ask…
Does Your Spouse Validate You?
Yesterday we looked at all the holes in our souls that marriage simply cannot fill. The most common of these is the quest for validation.
Podcast #57 — Validate Me, Please
So many of our relationship problems come about because we feel the need to be validated. But think about that. Why do we need other people to validate us? What can’t we validate ourselves? On this week’s episode of “You Must Chill”, Hal and John discuss the unhealthy need for validation and how to get […]