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  • 20170220 Survival

    Survival of the…. Responsive

    It’s amazing how some popular quotes we all say are actually misquotes.

  • There's a very common parenting axiom thrown around these days. In an effort to reverse the trend towards over-involvement in our kids'lives, we parents will proudly proclaim that "Kids need us to be their parents, not their friends."

    Are you friends with your kids?

    There’s a very common parenting axiom thrown around these days. In an effort to reverse the trend towards over-involvement in our kids’lives, we parents will proudly proclaim that “Kids need us to be their parents, not their friends.”

  • 6.1 Daily Pause Responsibility Blog Post

    Did you do your chores? (part II)

    Yesterday we talked about the battle to get your kids to do their chores this summer. At least that’s how we introduced the topic. How we concluded the discussion was a bit different.

  • 5.31 screamfree daily pause summer chores

    Did you do your chores?

    It’s officially summer where I live, and that means millions of Atlanta parents are preparing for battle. Some are jumping right in, hoping to get it right, right from the start (for these folks, there’s only one right way to do this). Some other parents are somehow on the opposite side of the spectrum, taking a laid-back approach this year, hoping that another year of life under their kids’ belts will somehow make those kids spontaneously feed the dog, take the garbage to the curb, and put away their folded laundry (somehow I doubt this will happen).

  • 4.28 His Majesty The Baby

    Our Kids are Not Our Kings

    When parents are obeying their children, living and responding kowtow to the child’s needs and behavior, it’s not always obvious. Our three-year-olds aren’t clad in togas and wreaths of gold leaves barking orders or cracking whips, after all. Children do not take control or hijack the remote control from their parents—we give it to them.

  • 4.11 screamfree parenting

    We’re Not Raising Kids

    In a jocular way, I often tell seminar audiences that we do our kids a disservice by telling them “You can do anything you want to do in life, you can be anything you want to be.”

  • 4.5 screamfree kids

    It’s Hard to Be a Kid

    It is so easy for adults, feeling overwhelmed by the responsibilities of adulthood, to forget how difficult it can be to be a child. Whether age 8 or 18, it is sometimes just plain hard to be a kid. School is either incredibly difficult or incredibly boring, and relationships are seemingly always full of melodrama or pain, and body image and hormones are, well, major issues. Such is the story of being immature, growing up, and in constant need of validation.

  • screamfree lack of sleep

    Good Night, Sleep Tight

    There are few things worse than a sleepless night. Except for maybe an endless parade of them with no end in sight. When you are sleep-deprived, food doesn’t taste as good, colors don’t look as bright, and things that normally wouldn’t bother you set you off on a moment’s notice. For those of you out there with babies who aren’t sleeping well, I offer my sincere and earnest condolences.

  • Loving Enough to Confront

    “It is not giving children more that spoils them; it is giving them more in order to avoid confrontation.” (John Gray, Children Are From Heaven) We don’t like to admit it, but let’s try: Each of us has often gone to extreme lengths to avoid confrontation with our children. Sometimes we don’t like to disappoint […]

  • Approachable

    One of my daughters (I have three) has been struggling with her grades a little bit this year. She kind of dug herself a hole first semester, and is having to work overtime now just to get back to level ground. It’s been frustrating to watch, but it’s also been a chance for both of […]