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Appreciating Appreciation
The easiest way I know to bring great harmony into your marriage is to just say thank you. Go out of your way to discover something your spouse…
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Seeing Your Children as Adults
This quote by the legendary comedienne Lucille Ball is true on a couple of different levels. On one hand, she seems to be talking about the phenomenon…
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Is it too late?
Is it too late? I get asked that question on a regular basis. After learning about the power of pause, and the ScreamFree way of living and leading, some people are eager to know if their mistakes are too great to overcome. My answer is always…
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Don’t Be So Nice
Those who know me personally know that I’m not really big on “nice.” I don’t really strive to be “nice,” I don’t really trust people who are always “nice,” and one of my favorite parenting books is The Danger of Raising Nice Kids by Timothy Smith. Now, all this is not because I prefer the opposite of nice; I don’t ever want to come across as mean or cruel or cold (well, almost never). But I also don’t ever want to be seen as so sweet or pleasant or “agreeable” that I really have nothing substantive to offer. Especially in my marriage
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Why won’t my wife take time for herself?
This past weekend I got to enjoy an annual guys’ golf trip. Eighteen of us left our work lives and loved ones behind to enjoy blistering temperatures, and even higher scores. It was three days of pure joy.
Over the years, I’ve heard from numerous husbands how much they wish their wives would take similar time for themselves.
“I’ve tried to suggest everything from a girls’ spa trip, a shopping & shows trip to NYC, or just a night away by herself in a downtown hotel, but she just won’t do it.”
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Me vs. We
Far too often, it seems like we married folks are facing a choice—pursuing a better “we” or pursuing a better “me.” One can feel self-suffocating, especially when it seems like we’re giving up more than our spouse in order to keep the relationship connected. The other can feel self-serving, like doing what’s best for me is antithetical to the whole idea of being married in the first place. I see a lot of marriages where one spouse does more “me,” and the other does more “we.”
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Play Ball!
I love baseball. I love the tradition. I love the history. I love the crack of the bat, the sound of a fastball hitting the catcher’s mitt, the buzz of the crowd. I even love the pace of the game, lending itself to conversation drifting along on the breeze. Baseball is the perfect combination of […]
