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You’re Not a Lizard
There’s something about the power of quietness that modern society doesn’t know how to cultivate. We get anxious and feel like…
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When You Win, You Lose
A few years into our marriage, in the midst of a lovely fight, Jenny changed her tone and simply announced: “Okay, you’re right…you win.”
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Knowing isn’t Growing
An easy way to identify a source of anxiety is to look at truths we know…but don’t…
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Complaining doesn’t lead to change
For the most part, spouses would rather complain to others about their current marital pattern than calmly, authentically ask…
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Bitter & sweet
The same week we first published ScreamFree Parenting, my wife Jenny got diagnosed with cancer.
The same month our work with Army families began to expand…
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Apologies can stink
Last week, during a White House press conference, two men got into a heated argument in front of, well, everybody. Afterwards, in an effort to…
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It was 24 years ago today…
Please forgive my self-indulgence in today’s Pause. The actual date of our anniversary…
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If you must answer a fool, do it…
Your spouse accuses you (falsely) of doing something thoughtless, without…
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Let’s be frank
Speaking with candor about your pain, fears, and hopes is the quickest way to invite…
