Over-functioning is Under-productive

Whenever we use threats to control anyone’s behavior, we ruin any chance of getting what we actually want most. See, we don’t want our employees to improve because we threatened to fire them, we don’t want…

What a tangled web we weave…

Whenever we deceive others, in order to make things better for ourselves in the moment, we deceive ourselves most of all. The real lie is thinking that by…

Plant, then harvest.

There is a time to reap rewards. These come in the form of business accomplishments, athletic victories and academic victories, and even…

Doing the Undone

All of us are surrounded by unfinished projects…at work, in our homes, in our relationships. These undone actions can be haunting, constant reminders of…

Liking Your Opponent

All week we’ve been talking about disagreement, and learning to do it well. One of the best ways to do this quickly is to simply acknowledge…

The Necessary People in Our Lives

Think about someone who agrees with you. Always. From politics to parenting, from movies to music, this person could…

What’s Missing in Your Relationship?

It’s very common, in our modern search for lasting romance, to seek out a relationship that’s got the whole package. We want to feel, with total…

Wait a minute…

Some thoughts on procrastination:

—it’s not an aversion to hard work, because procrastinators end up working very hard…

What Came Before

Whenever we fail, it is tempting to over-examine the big event itself, and under-examine all…

Don’t Get Impeached

For Nixon, it wasn’t so much the campaign to discredit his opponents (although illegal), it was the…