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“Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, friend, acquaintance, or stranger.” (Franklin P. Jones)

Despite the title of this post, it isn’t about 50 Shades of Grey; it’s about criticism. In theory, we all know we could improve in certain areas, but hearing the actual words can be painful — especially when you don’t see them coming. The problem is: without constructive criticism, most of us will never make the improvements we want to make. So, what can we do? Simple. Ask people you trust and respect to tell you the truth.

Yes, it will hurt at first, but — like jogging or lifting weights — the more you do it, the easier it gets. If you would be willing to seek out that type of honest feedback from those closest to you, and then listen without defending yourself, you’d be amazed at how you start to grow.

Be careful though. Don’t ask people to tell you how you could improve and then tell them why they’re wrong. That’s even worse than not asking in the first place.